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After
Suicide
by John H. Hewett - published by Westminster Press, Philadelphia, PA
(1980)
For those struggling to cope in the aftermath of a suicide, this book
presents the facts and demonstrates how to deal with feelings of guilt,
anger, bewilderment, and shame. It shows how to live as survivors of
suicide, how to explain the event to children, and how to reconcile the
death with religious beliefs.
After Suicide: A Ray of Hope
by Eleanora "Betsy" Ross - published by Lynn Publications,
Iowa City, IA (1986)
Starting with stories about what it is like to be a survivor of the
suicide of someone you love, it is a self-help guide to recovery for the
survivor. A culmination of 25 years of personal experience as a suicide
survivor, as leader of a grief support group, and as founder of Ray of
Hope, Inc., in 1977. Besides covering the immediate aftermath of the
suicide, the book helps to understand both the many aspects of the
situation leading up to the suicide and the complicated process of
recovery. It touches on such topics as addiction, abuse, neglect, and
depression, as well as self-examination, spirituality and personal
growth. It has many practical suggestions about what to do and not to
do, what to say and not to say, how to help oneself, how to help
children, etc.
After Suicide Loss: Coping with Your Grief
by Bob Baugher, Ph.D. and Jack Jordan, Ph.D. - published by Sturbridge
Group (2002)
This new book for people who have lost a loved one to suicide is written
by two experienced grief counselors. Designed to provide support and
information through the first year of grief, it is organized
chronologically, with sections on the first few days, few weeks, few
months, and beyond the first year.
Additional information available at: Sturbridge
Group
Andrew, You Died Too Soon
by Corinne Chilstrom - published by Augsburg Fortress (1993)
In the most simple, straightforward language, this mother tells the
heart's story: the love for her son which had to continue without that
son; the embrace of speechless grief and of a murmuring, speaking
community; the deep, spiritual events that occurred for her and her
family when one son took his life.
Breaking the Silence
by Mariette Hartley - published by Mass Market, NY (1991)
This sensitive and witty actress has written openly and honestly. After
Mariette's father died by gunshot, she and her mother kept his suicide a
secret for years. Once Mariette told her story she became "the
spokesperson for suicide survivors" telling her poignant story over
and over to help survivors and to promote the prevention of suicide.
Dead Reckoning: A Therapist Confronts His Own
Grief
by David C. Treadway, Ph.D. - published by Basic Books, NY (1996)
David's mother died by suicide and now David writes about his journey of
grief after 27 years of avoidance. A profound and moving memoir
revealing the many layers of pain and denial that can build up in a
family after a suicide. The author finds the courage to face his ghosts,
take off his protective layers and reconnect with his family.
Don't Take My Grief Away From Me
by Doug Manning - published by In-Sight Books (1979)
A warm, consoling, practical guidance to help the bereaved cope with
emotions, confront decisions, and learn to live again. Gently, with
warm, consoling, and practical guidance, Doug Manning addresses the
painful, often disorientation aftermath of the death of a loved one,
helping the bereaved cope with the emotions and confront the decisions
that are an inevitable part of this time of radical life adjustment. He
helps readers face up to grief, move through it, and learn to live
again. The author provides thoughtful advice for rebuilding a
grief-shattered life while taking to heart the valuable lessons death
and mourning impart to everyone.
Forgive & Forget: Healing The Hurts We
Don't Deserve
by Lewis B. Smedes - published by Pocket Books (1984)
One of the most difficult struggles in managing conflict is practicing
forgiveness. There are many well-written works on this subject, but few
match the realism and sensitivity by Lewis Smedes. The work,
"Forgive and Forget", is a classic on the subject. Mr. Smedes
includes in his book: - The four stages of forgiving - Forgiving people
who are hard to forgive - How people forgive - Why forgive? It is a
thoughtful and insightful study of the only true medicine for our
deepest wounds: Forgiveness. It appeals not only to the mind but also to
the spirit. It is a wonderful companion for anyone who is suffering the
loss of a cherished relationship, unable to reconcile the injustice or
futility of such loss. It will give help as well as comfort to those who
read it, and help to understand that forgiveness can be not only a
possibility but a reality.
Grieving a Suicide - A Loved One's Search for
Comfort, Answers, & Hope
by Albert Y. Hsu - published by InterVarsity Press (1972)
After his father's death by suicide, Albert Hsu wrestled with the
intense emotional and spiritual questions surrounding suicide. While
acknowledging that there are no easy answers, Hsu draws on the resources
of the Christian faith to point suicide survivors to the God who offers
comfort in our grief and hope for the future. If you have lost a loved
one to suicide or provide pastoral care to those left behind, this book
is an essential companion for the journey toward healing.
Healing After The Suicide of a Loved One
by Ann Smolin & John Guinan - published by Simon & Schuster
(1993)
A very informative book that provides suicide survivors with insights
into the emotional responses they may be experiencing. The authors are
direct and honest as they offer support, hope, and permission to go on
with life.
Helping Children Cope With Grief
by Alan Wolfelt - published by Accelerated Development, Inc. (1983)
This book is written for parents, teachers, and counselors who have both
a desire and a commitment to help children when they experience a death.
How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies
by Therese A. Rando - published by Lexington Books (1988)
Mourning the death of a loved one is a process all of us will go through
at one time or another. But wherever the death is sudden or anticipated,
few of us are prepared for it or for the grief it brings. There is no
right or wrong way to grieve, there is no way around the pain of loss,
but there is a way through it. Each person's response to loss will be
different. In this compassionate, comprehensive guide, your are lead
gently through the painful but necessary process of grieving and helps
you find the best way for yourself. It offers help to anyone who has
survived the pain of this kind of loss and is trying to adjust to a new
world without their loved one.
How To Survive The Loss Of A Love
by Colgrove, Bloomfield, McWilliams - published by Prelude Press (1991)
One of the most directly helpful books on the subject of loss ever
written, it helps one to cope up with life's worst encounters. It
provides support for anyone who is experiencing grief related to a loss,
including the death of a loved one and the breakup of a relationship. A
nice thing about this book is its unique, easy-to-read format: the
chapters are written in outline form, and each chapter is just 1-2 pages
long and printed on the left-hand sides of the pages only. The
right-hand side pages contain poems, quotes, and sayings offering
comfort as well as inspiration. This book will help you to feel that you
are not along as you begin to cope with your loss.
Living Through Personal Crisis
by Ann Kaiser Sterns - published by Ballantine Books (1985)
A self-help book written for those who have to deal with loss and
trauma, and their families. Explains what you may be feeling both
physically and emotionally and ways to help yourself heal. In this
invaluable book, a noted professor of psychology explains how grief, as
agonizing as it may be, is a natural response to life's tragedies that
helps us along through anger and isolation to a lasting healing process.
Professional yet compassionate, drawn from actual case histories as well
as the author's own experience of living through personal crisis, it
provides comforting guidance and practical day-to-day advice for those
who suffer--and loved ones and friends who care.
Mourning After Suicide
by Lois Bloom - published by The Pilgrim Press (1987)
The author lost her son to suicide. This easy to read 24 page booklet is
an excellant introduction for someone newly bereaved. It normalizes the
grief and the reference to spirituality is gentle and non-invasive.
My Son, My Son: A Guide To Healing After A
Suicide In The Family
by Iris Bolton - published by Bolton Press, 1090 Crest Brook Lane,
Roswell, GA 30075
Phone: 770-645-1886. (1983)
A therapist shares the story of the suicide of her son; a compelling,
powerful and informative book about suicide, grief, survival, and hope
that will profoundly touch the heart and provide new insights for every
reader.
Night Falls Fast: Understanding Suicide
by Kay Redfield Jamison - published by Knopf (1999)
After years of struggling with manic-depression, Dr. Jamison tried - at
age twenty-eight - to kill herself. Now she brings all of her knowledge
and research to bear on this devastating problem. This book helps us to
understand the suicidal mind, to recognize and come to the aid of those
at risk, and to comprehend the profound effects on those left behind.
No Time To Say Goodbye, Surviving the Suicide
of a Loved One
by Carla Fine - published by Doubleday (1997)
The author shares her own journey of grief following the suicide death
of her physician husband and she also integrates the voices of others
who have endured the desolation of a loved one's suicide.
Roses In December
by Marilyn Willett Heavilin - published by Thomas Nelson (1993)
Written with deep compassion and empathy, the author reaches out to help
those who are grieving find God's comfort. Having lost three sons, she
knows the tremendous sorrows and struggles that come with the death of a
loved one. Yet she shares how even in the winters of our lives God
provided roses - special occasions, special people, and special memories
- to give us strength to persevere and draw close to Him. This book will
help you understand the grieving process, support family members, give
insight into sibling grief during this difficult time. You'll discover
there are roses in December.
Seven Choices
by Elizabeth Harper Neeld, Ph.D. - published by Delta )1990)
In this ground-breaking book, Elizabeth Harper Neeld describes the steps
each of us can take to find a new balance for our lives after
experiencing death, divorce, illness, as well as grief, loss and change
of any kind. This book maps the complete grieving and change process and
provides a way to respond to change by identifying seven positive
choices that lead to a "new normal." These positive choices
bring healing and stability and show how to avoid getting stuck in
mourning, anger, bitterness and sadness.
Stronger Than Death: When Suicide Touches Your
Life
by Sue Chance - published by Avon Books (1992)
A psychiatrist shares the life and suicide death of her only child and
her personal struggle to cope with this tragic event.
Suicide: Prevention, Intervention, Postvention
by Earl Grollman - published by Beacon Press (1988)
Offers advice on how to recognize the warning signs of potential suicide
attempt, how to intervene when a suicide has been attempted, and how to
comfort families and friends who have lost a loved one to suicide.
Suicide: Survivors: A Guide For Those Left
Behind
by Adina Wrobleski - published by Afterwords (1994)
Helpful and insightful information for suicide survivors - honest, open,
and easy to read. It is probably one of the best, most accurate, books
ever published on suicide/suicide grief. Adina Wrobleski is an expert on
suicide, having spent many years studying the subject, after her
daughter died by suicide. Reading this book might be a good "first
step" for someone beginning the arduous journey of trying to work
through suicide grief.
Survivors of Suicide
by Rita Robinson - published by Newcastle Publishing Co. (1989)
Survivors of Suicide is a helping guide for those family and friends
left behind when a loved one commits suicide. This newly revised edition
goes into more detail about teen suicide and the help that is available,
and dispels the myths surrounding suicide.
The Bereaved Parent
by Harriet Sarnoff Schiff - published by Penguin Books (1977)
This is the classic book for parents whose child has died - and for all
those who want to help them. Many such parents feel that no one can help
because no one can understand the complex ramifications of their
tragedy, the exhaustion, the quarrels with mates, the sleeplessness, the
panic, the inertia, the horror of laughter - all the seemingly endless
aftermath of sorrow and despair. Yet, because she herself is a bereaved
parent, the author is able to give genuine comfort. If you have lost a
child, you know that pain like yours cannot be erased, and she does not
attempt to do so. Instead, she offers guidelines and practical
step-by-step suggestions to help you cope with every stage. Her book
will convince you that you, too, can find your way back to the land of
the living.
The Courage To Grieve
by Judy Tatelbaum - published by Harper & Row (1980)
This unusual self-help book about surviving grief offers comfort,
inspiration, and provides the specific help we need to enable us to face
our grief fully and to recover and grow from the experience. The author
gives us a fresh look at understanding grief, showing us that grief is a
natural, inevitable human experience, including all the unexpected,
intense and uncomfortable emotions like sorrow, guilt, loneliness,
resentment, confusion, or even the temporary loss of the will to live.
The emphasis is to clarify and offer help, and the tone is spiritual,
optimistic, creative and easy to understand. She provides excellent
advice on how to help oneself and others get through the immediate
experience of death and the grief that follows, as well as how to
understand the special grief of children. Particularly useful are the
techniques for completing or "finishing" grief--counteracting
the popular misconception that grief never ends. The Courage to Grieve
shows us how to live life with the ultimate courage: not fearing death.
This book is about so much more than death and grieving - it is about
life and joy and growth.
The Grief Recovery Handbook
by James & Friedman - published by HarperCollins (1998)
Incomplete recovery from grief can have a lifelong negative effect on
your capacity for happiness. Drawing from their own histories, as well
as from others, the authors illustrate what grief is and how it is
possible to recover, regain energy and spontaneity. Based on a proven
program, this life-changing handbook offers the specific actions needed
to complete the grieving process and accept the loss.
The Suicide Of My Son
by Trudy Carlson - published by Benline Press (1995)
After the suicide death of her teenage son Ben, Trudy Carlson sheds
light into the little-understood symptoms of depressive illness and
anxiety disorders in youngsters. She explains the biological nature of
these conditions, and maps out a low-cost, effective school based
program for recognizing and treating school-aged youth. The correlation
between depressive illness and teen suicide is examined.
Transcending Loss
by Ashely Davis Prend - published by Berkley Books (1997)
An inspiring new approach to the lifelong process of grieving. The
author asserts that death doesn't end the relationship, it simply forges
a new type of relationship -- one based not on physical presence but on
memory, spirit, and love. The author helps grievers deal with the
ongoing impact of their loss -- and the attempt to transcend it. While
most books often focus on crisis management and imply that there is an
'end' to mourning, they essentially fail to address the issue of grief's
ongoing impact, and how it changes through the years. This is a book
about death and grief, yes, but more importantly it is a book about
love, hope and shows that over time, you can learn to transcend even in
spite of pain. We all get broken by life sooner or later because loss is
the price we pay for living and loving. But experience shows that we can
become stronger at the broken places and find the opportunity in crisis.
This book will help you move beyond grief and will guide you on your
journey through time of healing and transcendence.
Understanding, Coping, and Growing Through
Grief
by Collection of Authors - published by HOPE FOR BEREAVED, 4500 Onandaga
Blvd., Syracuse, NY 13219 (1995)
A book of helpful articles written by bereaved people for bereaved
people and those who want to help them. A superb gift to give to
bereaved; helpful to have on hand for resource library.
Understanding Grief
by Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt - published by Accelerated Development Inc.
(1992)
A compassionate guide to coping with the death of someone loved, this
book helps bereaved people move toward healing by encouraging them to
explore their unique journeys into grief and mourning. Throughout,
readers are sked specific questions about their grief journeys and
encouraged to think about and write down their responses. For support
group leaders, the book also includes a nine-session support group model
that draws on the earlier chapters in the book for readings and writing
exercises.
Why Suicide?
by Eric Marcus - published by HarperCollins (1996)
A nonjudgemental guide for people whose lives have been touched by
suicide. It offers practical answers to such related concerns as what to
tell others, preventability, and what to do with suicidal feelings |